By T. Katz
Q: No matter how good a person I try to be, I feel like good things will never come my way! I’m frustrated watching other people doing and getting the things I’m dreaming, hoping and wishing for. How much longer do I have to go on waiting?
A: Oh, dear. In order to truly address this issue, I have to pluck a few things out of your perceived dilemma. Bear with me, this might sting a little: Watching. Dreaming. Hoping. Wishing. Waiting. Are you familiar with the Snow White song? She sings about wishing, hoping and dreaming and then she laughs. Hahahahaha. Sure, it all *SPOILER ALERT* worked out for her. All whilst she slumbered away courtesy of a poisoned apple taken from a stranger. Such a bad plan Miss White! You know how much of the non-animated population (those not able to converse with animals and have a staff of seven) fares with that kind of really bad plan? Not well. Watching, dreaming, hoping, wishing and just waiting isn’t a solid plan. Nor is eating poisoned food from people you don’t know. Have a better plan!
But, if you’re going to insist on waiting for things/people/circumstances/opportunities/etc. to come your way, then approach your life like the waiting room of your dentist’s office. Why? Well, what do you currently do while in that situation? Do you sit perfectly still in an armchair, dreaming about the upcoming procedure? Are you expending an extraordinary amount of energy wishing and hoping that everything will turn out alright? Are you peering around the corner every time an exam door opens, watching other patients undergo their cleaning or root canal? (Sidenote: If you do any of that, go back to school and enter that profession.) Or, are you just frozen in space, simply waiting?
Most people are usually doing one of the following a) reading a magazine, b) scrolling through their phone, c) listening to music or d) talking to the person next to them. They’re actively doing something other than just waiting. THAT, right there, is how I want you have to treat your life. Life is a big ol’ waiting room and you shouldn’t be doing nothing but simply watching, dreaming, hoping, wishing and waiting. I’m not terribly math-y, but I know for a fact that doing nothing from nothing is nothing. You want more than nothing! You didn’t say exactly what you’re wanting, but no matter what it is – you can’t just do nothing expecting to get something. That’s not math, that’s logic. Listen: “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” So, start making plans. Even little ones. Make plans for breakfast with a friend or someone you admire and want to learn from. Have a checklist of experiences you want to have. Concerts in the Park? Taking 20 minutes a day to walk or read? Trust me, you’ll look back and see that good things did manage to come your way, all while you were waiting.
xo – t.