Reader Andre wrote in to ask how he can handle the changing world we live in. He feels like everything in his life has changed in recent years and he needs to make sense of it all. My thoughts on this are the same today as they were a decade ago; we must be resilient and demonstrate mental toughness at all times to achieve the life goals we want and deserve.
What does it mean to be resilient and have mental toughness?
In order to strengthen resilience, it’s important to understand the concept in depth. Resilience is the ability to move forward by growing through every part of life’s process. Struggling is a natural part of living. What matters is how we react to struggle.
It’s easy to let difficulty keep us down. It isn’t easy to stay afloat when the waters are rocky, and it’s okay to feel that struggle. Resilience is associated with toughness. Part of being tough means admitting to difficulty and working through it instead of ignoring it.
How many times have you heard someone say, “just toughen up,” or something similar? While it is easy to say, what does mental toughness really mean?
At one time being told to toughen up was thought of as being cliché. The view on mental toughness has now changed. Who isn’t leading a more stressful life these days? Life can really throw you a curve ball at any time and it is important to have that mental toughness to deal with any situation. How you deal with a stressful situation is directly related to your level of resilience.
Having resilience and mental toughness is an asset when it comes to all types of situations including: sports, business, facing an emergency, dealing with a major illness or injury and more.
An example of this is how we handle a downturn in the economy. The resilient person will accept what they cannot change and make adjustments to maintain a healthy financial picture for their personal and business affairs.
Research has shown that as a person ages they do become tougher. A senior person may have a weaker body due to their age, but mentally we can be super tough! We also gain wisdom as we age.
On the downside some people who appear to be resilient and mentally tough are often insensitive to certain situations. This may make them seem tough, but in fact they could be lacking in certain skills such as building relationships with people.
The world today has evolved into a busy and stressful environment. It is important to have a certain degree of resilience just to survive. On the upside we have developed into a society that is not afraid to speak out. People are encouraged to discuss their stressors and are able to find help more easily.
Life is something that you can either go through, or grow through. Resilience requires the willingness to grow and adapt. Life has peaks and valleys. It is always changing. If you’re able to accept this, you’ll find that you’re more motivated to get curious about the lessons of each moment. You’re not born with resilience or mental toughness, but you can develop these skills.
It can appear difficult to implement new habits, especially when they involve making big changes in your life. Keep in mind that you can learn something from every situation you encounter, and this is a good opportunity to learn something that will improve your self-worth and enthusiasm for life.
Keeping a journal can help you get your thoughts out so that you don’t have to store them in your brain. Sometimes it can be overwhelming to have so many thoughts swirling around like a whirlpool. Writing it out can help ease that feeling. Set a timer for ten minutes and write whatever comes to you, even if it doesn’t make sense.
One of the skills you’ll learn emphasizes the importance of building community. You can use this skill to implement changes you want to make by asking for accountability. Having people around you who know the changes you’re trying to make will help remind you of your goals.
As your self-awareness improves, so will your ability to maintain a positive outlook on your progress. If you can look back at the work you do and are proud of yourself even if you were not perfect, you will be more confident in your ability to grow.
Part of resilience and mental toughness is facing difficult things head-on. Become a problem solver at every turn. Focus on the positive aspects of your life and continue to move forward.
Connie Ragen Green lives in Saugus and has been working exclusively on the internet since 2006. Local Business Marketing: Making the Phone Ring for Businesses Everywhere is her latest book and was released by Hunter’s Moon Publishing in June of 2019. All of Connie’s titles are available in paperback at Amazon, at Barnes & Noble, at your local bookstore by request, and also for Kindle. Find out more by visiting http://HugeProfitsTinyList.com and download an audio recording for 2019 at http://NewRulesforOnlineMarketing.com.
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